You, as an involved parent, encourage your children to fast during the blessed month of Ramadan every year. But there is another exceptional month of the year in which the first 10 days are more blessed than any of the days of Ramadan – the first 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah!
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said:
“There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allah than these ten days.” The people asked, “Not even jihad for the sake of Allah?” He said, “Not even jihad for the sake of Allah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing” [Bukhari].
I want to share an important subject that has affected all of us in one way or another, and has negatively affected the productivity of the Muslim Ummah as a whole and individually. Something I have realized about time thieves (such as watching TV which is more harmful to the Iman than we think, notice or justify to ourselves) is that it changes us, whether slowly or quickly but surely.
If you are reading Qur’an or listening to a beautiful lecture and your Iman feels high, great and pure, then shaytan tells you “hey watch a show for only a half an hour”. Thinking that there is no harm in it, you go to watch it. But it doesn’t end there. You cannot switch your Iman on and off like a light switch. You cannot do something wasteful and then expect afterwards that you will go right back to feeling the light in your heart that you did just before that 30 minute show. I am talking about shows that have been so widely spread and have become so normal in today’s society that they aren’t considered “bad”, just normal. You too may not consider it “bad” but I intend to explain why it has such a harmful effect on our productivity and Islam.
By Hosney Fadyl Fathah , Singapore
All praise be to Almighty Allah. Peace be upon prophet Muhammed,the last messenger of Allah. My family and I wish mention a word of caution to my dear Muslim brothers & sister. As Muslim we believe that Allah is one, everything good and bad that happens in this world and hereafter are with the full knowledge of Allah. And some times a painful situation like this filthy video could be the test of patience upon the Muslims and a test for the Innocence of Muslims, as mentioned by Allah's most loved and blessed last messenger prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) therefore the current issue related to filthy video was also done with Allah's knowledge.
It’s a beautiful sunny day, Moosa and Fatima, two bubbly and vibrant 5 year old twins, try to draw their parent’s attention to the lovely sandcastles they had been constructing for hours in the garden. Dad is too busy viewing television and replying to emails on his Blackberry mobile while mum has for the last few hours been chatting with her friends and updating her Facebook page. Mum and dad, hardly take notice of their kid’s achievement. Both parents are usually so involved in their work and social environments that they “hardly” get time for their kids.
Apart from the first four weeks spent with mum after birth both Moosa and Fatima have ever since infancy been inhabitants of a day care centre. In the evenings mum picks them up on her way back home from office. Dad returns usually late in the evening and both parents barely have time to interact with their kids before its time to sleep and wake-up again.
A strange phenomenon of children with both parents but are “modern day orphans”. Due to many parents deep engrossment in the material and social environment, they are unable to spend basic and vital time with their children, thus neglecting them and reducing them to the level of “modern day orphans”. Parents are there, but in reality they are not “there”.
The blessed month of Ramadan gives us tremendous opportunities to seek forgiveness and ask for Allah’s mercy. Special prayers and excess charity become a norm in many households. However, once Ramadan comes to an end, some people go back to their old ways of skipping a few prayers, or delaying them and committing sins without a second thought.
We didn’t want to leave you hanging after Ramadan with no productivity tips, so here are 10 tips to have a Productive Eid!
Keep reciting the Eid Takbir as much as you can wherever you go from the Maghreb of the last day of Ramadan till the Eid Prayer! Recite the takbir in the car, in the shopping malls, at home! Revive this Sunnah and truly feel the greatness of Islam.
2. Prepare your Eid outfits early!
May be too late now, but I hope you bought all your Eid clothes BEFORE Ramadan started! If not, don’t panic. Try to find something reasonable in your wardrobe and don’t stress yourself with late night shopping on the night before Eid.
If you’ve bought your Eid clothes early, then prepare it the night before and place everything you need in one place. (Last thing you need is the early morning rush before Eid prayer and forgetting where you’ve put your new shoes!)
Fasting during Ramadan does not only consist of refraining from food and drink, rather we must also protect ourselves from using bad language, backbiting, lying, and anger.
Unfortunately, for many of us, refraining from food also means an increase in anger and irritability, causing us to say some things we probably do not mean to. Here are some tips on how we can control our tongues (applicable outside of ramadan) and increase in patience both in our communication with others and within ourselves:
I have a distinct memory of my husband and I holding hands as we drive to Tarawih prayers. He is wearing a crisp white thobe and, as we drive along the freeway, a cool breeze drifts in through the windows. He recites Qur’an along the way, a soft recitation just audible above the humming sounds of cars and trucks outside. Such a moment is so simple, yet I can still remember the feeling in my hands, and it makes me smile every time.